taking time out
lord what is happening right now? Does anyone else feel an oppresive heaviness in the world? Or is it just me and what is going on with Sophie? Seems we have got to the bottom of the problem with my gal - and the idiot she has been 'in love' with for 2 years. He has apparently been seeing other girls as well as being a steady boyfriend to Sophie. It has been a regular thing, not just one of. Now in my book - being faithfull is pretty damn important, even when you are only 17 - if you want to play the field, then play it, but you cannot have your cake and eat it too. The reason she said nothing about it to me or did nothing about it? She thought she wouldn't get anyone else. Can you believe that? Have I failed? I was certainly taken in by this jerk - he had me eating from the palm of my hand. I am absolutely exhausted right now. We need to rebuild - so I am taking a few days away from blogging - I was going to try to blog through it but all that happens is that I feel 'guilty' when I don't visit your blogs & comment (yes, there is THAT guilt word again) - so I am running away - just for the weekend - I am running to my life - to garden, to clean & smudge my house, to rid our selves of all the crap. We are going to go through Sophie's stuff and smash and rip all the things that remind her of 'the jerk' . we are going to do spells and cleansing rituals. we are going to eat icecream and cry. We are going to say nasty things about the jerk and make ourselves laugh. and we are going to heal.
love you all lots xoxo
ps thankyou to each of you for your friendship, your emails and your support xo ~ what would I do without my gal pals?
posted by Miss Robyn | 6:44 am
18 Comments:
She is far too good for the rat..!!
I do have a spell called ''Hell hath no Fury..etc etc.." just say the word..?
Love to you both, and by all means indulge yourselves..xo
sometimes that's exactly what's in order.....a cleansing and out with the old ritual of discards and ripping. Sophie's feelings of thinking he was all she could get makes you wonder how he worked on her. YOU didn't fail. she is 17 and there is a lot going on there - one foot in childhood and one foot in adulthood. It really is all going to be ok....and frankly she may be a much stronger person now for having gone through it. does it make it any easier? no. but it will one day all make sense.
We're thinking of you and Sophie. There are jerks out there all the time trying to take advantage...it isn't your fault, or Sophie's. It's his. Get a doll and stick pins in it!! And know you have love, hugs, and friendship all around you.
Aww man, sounds like she is so much better off without him. Now she has room in her life to find someone worthy of her love yeah. Gawd, it's so hard being that age though - everything is compounded a thousand times over, especially in love. I hope she bounces back real soon. You sound like an awesome mum.
Hey, that Doreen Virtue thing sounds so awful! It's amazing how commercialism has spread through everything isn't it? She sounds like she's completely lost touch with what she was originally about. You are probably a hundred times more qualified than she is right now - she has minders? Sheesh!
Time out sounds exactly like what you need. Hope you have a good weekend!
Shell.
You are right to take time to spend with Sophie. She needs your attention right now. She needs your bonding. Oh my gosh I can remember those teen aged jerks that made our daughters fall in love with them. It's really hard on them. She will learn from it, and you will always be there to hold her hand.
The day will come and I think it may be soon, when Sophie breathes a sigh of relief. Lies Sophie. It is HE who is not worthy of YOU. It is HE who has a distorted image of himself, trying to cover all his bases because he isn't secure enough to be with one woman. If he ever told you that you weren't good enough, he was really talking about himself. One day he will realize that. But you won't care...you will have moved on and you and your mum will laugh your asses off.
miss*R-sounds like you didn't fail at all to me. You sound a lot like my mum, who helped me through a similar situation. And there is nowhere I would rather be today than here. Hell, we all make poor choices and sometimes it takes getting dumped or the like before we realize it.
Your future is so bright now! Both of yours!
Those angel twits give loving angels a bad name. I am not into that kind of "out loud" affirmation crap either, my angels hear me whether I shout it or think it.
God Bless you for being so real.
Look on the positive Sophie.Isn’t better you found out now then later down in life what a jerk he really is. I think mom went to the angel conference and brought back some angels for you. The hurt is great but not nearly as much if you had made a life together…
Spend time with mom and rid yourselves of all the negative forces...You'll come through all right I'm sure...angels are watching!
Annabelle xo
Smash, tear, burn. Sometimes it helps. When Tysdragonfly's husband left her. She built a big bon fire of all sorts of his things and things associated with him. We took pictures and she did a scrapbook page.
Hugs to you and Sophie.
I agree, burn and smash until your heart's content. I know how crushed I was at 15 when the guy I'd fallen head over heels for didn't return my feelings. Not a nice ordeal.
Good luck :)
Oh Robyn, please don't be so hard on yourself as a mother. Of course, it's the age of being a girl and being insecure. I'm sure you taught her well and this is just one of life's little lessons for women, unfortunately, that we all must go through. She will be stronger next time around. Thank goodness she is still very young and will learn from her mistakes with this creep. As for you, you go and enjoy yourself with your family. Don't be too hard on the fella with your spells . . . hehe. loveya.
You have a rip roaring weekend and remember that this to shell pass. I remember the days of teenage girls and it was at times it was not easy. She is lucky to have you by her side.
Teens leave the planet between the age of 14 and 34.. thats the only reason I can find for things they do sometimes.. I wish you peace, patience, and love for you and your child while this passes and she returns to being reasonable and the *man* in her life falls off a cliff..
Peace, Kai.
I can truthfully say I know what you're going through....or at least what Sophie is going through. I had a boyfriend like that in high school. I look back on it and think where was my brain!! Please let her know it will get better, and there are much better guys just waiting for her to come along.
Oh, sweetheart! We've all known a rat like poor Sophie's rat. She's lucky to have you to get over him, but it's odd how beautiful young girls worry about self-esteem and if anyone else will "want" them. I've seen it happen time and time again with young girls, all of them beautiful, talented, smart and accomplished. You will be a big help to Sophie and she will find someone special who deserves the special young woman she is! Love to you this weekend of healing and hope. xo
Blessings and angel hugs to you Sophie!
What a jerk. But the best of the unfaithful are highly skilled at hiding what they do unfortunately. Blessings to Sophie. Sometimes it sucks being a teenager. Her true mate is waiting somewhere in the wings for her, whether soon or down the road. He`s there, tell her. I believe in fate :)
tea
xo
You're just lucky Sophie didn't marry him. My first husband told me not to waste money on nice clothes or pretty lingerie, because I was nothing to look at, but I was a good cook, so it made marriage to me bearable.
It wasn't until I discovered him in OUR bed with his tart that I decided marriage to him was unbearable. Just wished I heeded the warning signs before I married him.
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