the hurts of life
my gorgeous daughter, Sophie is 17 and has had a boyfriend for just under two years. I feel in my heart that they are twin flames and are meant to be together. He is a lovely boy but they are 'having a break' at the moment. She is heartbroken - adolescent love is one of the hardest things to deal with. It isn't puppy love - it is real. He tells her he still loves her but now there is another girl who is pursuing him with all her feminine wiles. My daughter's heart is breaking.
Her mother's heart is breaking also - I don't know what to do - we have done rituals and ceremonies. We are snuggling and I tell her how silly boys can be sometimes. And that she has to be strong. I have asked the angels and faeries but I know in the end - it is all in the lap of the Gods and what will be, will be. I know she is young and we all go through things like this but I want to stop her hurt, to make it all better, to take her pain way - to tell her it is going to be ok.
I know that all this is a learning journey and things like this make us who we will be tomorrow. I know that there is always something better in the future. But knowing this does not make it any easier - it does not take our pain away.
If anyone has any suggestions or rituals or spells that we can do - to make it a little easier - please tell us - and I ask each of you to just keep us in your thoughts and prayers.
posted by Miss Robyn | 11:50 am
16 Comments:
I could weep. My thoughts, prayers and love are with you both. Love is so hard.
I'm sending you a spell by email. My thoughts are with you both.
Young love can be so difficult. She is just starting out in life. It's a rite of passage; I think everyone goes through it, or almost everyone. Be strong, hang tight; it always works out in the end, it really really does.
xoxo
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Robyn, I am so sorry, poor Sophie,it just hurts so bad and all you can do is be there for her,she will get better but its never easy,I am keeping you and your lovely daughter in my prayers.xx
I know that pain all too well, its gut wrenching. So sorry both of you have to bear this. You’re doing all the right things Robyn, supporting her with love, and hugs. Having empathy, spending time with her. Do something really fun, be crazy, try to make her laugh, so she has a reprieve from her thoughts. Do some things out of the ordinary. Pepper and I drove out in our Pj’s in the middle of the night and got cookies and cream ice-cream. I don’t even like it, but she wanted to do it, so I did. It was a one and only time and she’s never forgotten it. Heck I just didn’t know what else to do! She’s a skinny Minnie so I thought it wouldn’t hurt! We’ve played cards, video games, and done creative projects together too, during breakups and cramps. Prayers are with you, take care.
Hugs Sherrie
Broken heart art.....give sorrow the words.....
Sending lots of calming waves for your home.
Ang
Sometimes the heartbreak of our children hurts us worse than them. Here is my advice: My mom used to tell me "If another woman can take him away from you...then he's not worth having".
Of course in this case they are both still very young and he may come to his senses.
The same thing happened to my daughter when she was 17. Her first love and her had broken up and she was so heart broken. She never wanted me to leave the room and I held her so many times as she cried her heart out. My heart ached for her and I wished so much that I could take it all on myself and set her free from it. They had gotten back but then it ended later by her wanting to move on but are now good friends though I hope some day that she ends up with someone who loved her as much as he did and still does and was always there for her. This experience brought us a lot closer.
tea
xo
I had a first love like that and my heart was broken at 19 - I had my mother in a quandry as to what to do for me. I was beyond consoling for a time. I left and went out of state - was supposed to be for a few weeks - I stayed 3 years.... met G and have been happily married 29 years. I believe ALL that previous heartbreak had a purpose. Sophie may not get it now but I really believe this is happening because she's still so young...and there is greatness waiting for her that this relationship would have prevented. I hate to say this only because it seems so trite, but really it's the truth - if it is meant to be it will be. Holding her, loving her and TIME, will heal this eventually.
XOXO
A big word of warning, my daughter had her heart broken at 18, I know the boy still felt for her, but peer pressure and his lifestyle made him a confused young man. She was heart broken but decided to go out with friends which I encouraged and put it behind her. Unfortunately, she almost immediately met another young man who was also recovering from a break up, they started going together, and got quite serious far too quickly, it was an'on the rebound relationship'. Nine weeks later he admitted he couldn't go on with it, too soon after his last relationship and it was him that pleaded with my daughter to be more serious with him, than just the odd date. For a second time my daughter had her heart broken. I think although it is hard at the time its better to hurt and cry as a singleton, and slowly naturally let things get better again. Don't let her go out trying to prove 'Look I can get another boyfriend, I am attractive to other boys' Things may resolve themselves.
This brought back nostalgic memories of helping my daughter through her first heartbreak. It hurt ME more than her but we spent a long weekend on the couch, just holding on to each other for dear life and crying and laughing and making up horrible, insulting stories about the boy. He dumped her right before Valentine's Day, just after she had bought all his love gifts. She felt better after she beat up the Teddy Bear......
Just love her and hold and be there. Nothing else will work....it has to be felt and claimed. Thoughts for both of you.......
How awful. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. Some jerk was breaking my heart at 18, I decided he wasn't good enough for me.
I cried for an hour or two before I came to that realization, but when I did, I never felt better in my life.
My thoughts are with both of you, having young daughters myself I am sure I will go through it at some point. We just want to protect them from hurt so much, don't we.
This makes us all remember being young and having our hearts broken...now we know how our mothers felt:-( I remember when my boys broke up with their first girlfriend...my heart was breaking with theirs. Your daughter will be fine but in the meantime she'll really need you! Hugs xoxo
Hugs and kisses to you both. I will keep you both in my thoughts. Before my youngest daughter got married they had a break and she went to being so sad, then she asked me how I knew he was the one for her. I had a picture of them together that I showed her. She was smiling in it. After Ty died I only saw her smile after Jase came into her life. I told her the smile that even went to her eyes was what convinced me he was the one.
Poor Sophie, the first hurt is always the depest one and the world seems a little less lovely when it happens. I will light a special candle for her today on my hearth.
"Someday I'll wish upon a star,
Wake up where the clouds are far behind me
Where trouble melts like lemon drops
High above the chimney top that's where you'll find me
Oh, Somewhere over the rainbow way up high"~Somewhere Over the Rainbow
A tiny thought for Sophie and and you. So terribly sad that your daughter has to endure this sorrow and I feel for you as a mom. I'll say a little prayer.
Annabelle xo
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